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Change, emotional storms, and the difficulty of reaching out.

Little wheat's writings


Our lives will change in the autumn due to my sister moving away from our childhood home and starting university studies.

This is a happy occasion but also a big change for all of us. Everyone is so proud of her. But I can’t stop wondering what it will mean to our family dynamics and my relationship with her. This has caused some strong emotional storms to start bubbling under the surface.

Every chance will make us reflect on our own lives and what we want. This has started a process of figuring out my identity and who I am. It takes quite a lot of my emotional energy. It’s also why I haven’t been posting as regularly as usual.

The best thing to do during these times would be to reach out to others and talk about emotions. Instead, I go tru my life telling people that I am fine when they ask me “how are you?” For some reason, you just don’t want to bother others with your own problems. Even tho multiple people have said to me “ You can talk to me about anything ,anytime,i’m here for you”

It’s a cultural thing I quess, we ain’t that good at asking for help because people value strength instead of vulnerability.

Luckily, I am not navigating this completely alone. My friends and family are supporting me, and also there’s a youth worker who I am seeing on a regular basis.

If you are going tru challenging times, please take my advice and reach out to others. It’s easier said than done, but remember that usually people will want to help and support you. Being vulnerable is not a weakness it just means that we are human beings ❤️.